While less than 5% of divorce cases end up in court, your attorney (and your spouse's attorney) think in terms of "what would the Judge rule if this goes to court?" For this reason alone, we consider April's SecSat one not to be missed.
We are honored to once again welcome Judge Robert Wooldridge who will give us a "judge's perspective" in April. He'll be joined by attorneys Dick Colten and Jennifer Joffee in panel format. It's a lively interaction as each presents his/her own views (often differing) on the divorce process. Susan Folwell, a therapist & consultant, well-known for her expertise in high conflict divorce will also join us. And of course, you'll hear from cosponsors Sharon Zarozny and Debbie Marson.This is a month not to be missed! Register today.
April Spring Break Special: $55 for first timers. (Ends midnight Tuesday, April 5)
First Time: Prepay below and it's $65 or pay @ door and it's $75.
Return whenever, and as often, as you like for only $35. (Need a scholarship? Email us.)
Stuck trying to figure out if you should stay or leave your marriage? You are not alone. It's common for couples to separate and reconcile many times before they actually divorce.
Some couples even negotiate a Property Settlement Agreement (PSA) and then decide to stay married -- turning their PSA into a postnuptial agreement.
Wishing you the best as you find your way ... and, please, be kind to yourself.
Each state calculates child support differently. Visit this site, click on your State and you'll be linked to it's official Child Support Calculator and Worksheets. You'll also find links to the state's guidelines, its State and Local child support offices, and more. Caution: There are lots of child support calculators on the web, this site will get you to the official ones.
Spring Break: Register by Thurs, Mar 31, and you get a free ½ hour coaching session.... happy to be of help!
FYI: We need a minimum of 6 people registered by midnight, Thurs, March 31 to make this happen. So please sign up soon ... and help us spread the word. Thanks!
News Flash....Register by Thurs, Mar 31, and you'll get a free ½ hour coaching session! We need 6 people registered to make this happen...
Therefore, as therapist Deborah Ross, LPC, CJT, cautions it's important to "beware of the story you tell yourself," because "it's the story you tell yourself that shapes who you are, what you believe about yourself and others, and how you act in the world."
So how do you tame your amazing mind the next time it's racing in circles, driving you crazy, stressing you out and blinding you?
Learn to journal. It's a simple, powerful tool and, as Ms. Ross says, "It's a 79 cent, self-help therapy --available whenever you need it." The caveat? Simply raging on paper can keep you stuck and even retraumatize you. Using proper techniques is crucial to change and healing.
Writing To Heal
Bring your favorite pen, paper (or even digital device, although the old-fashioned way works best) and join us for a 3-hour workshop that will introduce you to techniques to help you navigate through the turbulent waters of divorce and give you a sense of hope and healing.
Led by certified journaling therapist Deborah Ross, you'll be guided to get your brain's story -- your thoughts and emotions -- down on paper. Then, using therapeutic journaling techniques, Deborah will help you step back and meet the inner workings of your brain/mind. Your reward? You'll gain insight, a new perspective and the power to change. And that will bring you comfort, hope and clarity.
No prior writing or journaling experience is necessary and your entries will stay your alone. What will be shared is observations about the writing process, and you'll leave with a toolbox of techniques to help you create the next chapters of your life story! Why not give it a try?
We support, empower, and guide women, men and families through the complexities of separation and divorce. We make no judgments,our services are totally confidential, and we can even make recommendations if staying married is your goal.
Contact us today to learn about programs and services to help you put things in perspective, create a game plan and move forward, because we believe you deserve a brilliant, new life.
Wishing you the best as you move forward, and, "Always remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - AA Milne
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Good change, bad change, change you choose, change thrust upon you... it doesn't matter, it's still hard in places.
Why? And, how can we embrace it? Our special guest speaker in July is Jill Amstutz sharing her insights and tools on the topic. A divorcee herself, Jill consults with companies and leaders on managing change.
We love this British site for parents & kids of all ages. The home page says:
Are you worried your parents are splitting up?
If so you might be feeling sad and confused.
This website is for children like you,
to help you understand. and feel a bit better.
It's Not Your Fault offers a section for kids to explore their feelings, and each page reinforces "your parents love you" along with "It's not your fault." Wish this was around when my kids were going through it. Here are some sections we really like:
Second Saturday happens again Dec 8 and it's coed because....
A very hot issue for many divorcing couples is spousal support. Vocational Specialist Steven Shedlin will discuss imputing income, assessing underemployment and employability, and what to expect if a voc expert is called in. Patti Philipse, an attorney/mediator, will cover the legal aspects of divorce and explain why mediation is a good option for many couples. Therapist Deborah Ross will cover emotional issues, Debbie Marson the financial aspects, and Sharon Zarozny will provide an overview. More info
Don't go it alone...
Join Us @ Second Saturday
to learn what you need to know about getting unmarried.
Our specialty is to support, empower, and guide women, men and families through the complexities of separation and divorce. We make no judgments, our services are totally confidential, and we can even recommend programs if staying married is your goal.
So if your relationship is rocky, and separation or divorce has crossed your mind, contact us today to learn about programs and services to help you put things in perspective, create a game plan and move forward, because we believe you deserve a brilliant, new life.
Wishing you the best as you move forward. - Sharon Zarozny, Founder, Brilliant Exits, LLC
Wondering about imputed income? What to do about an underemployed spouse? Or, have you followed your spouse around on military or overseas assignments -- giving up a career to raise your family?
When this becomes an issue in divorce, a vocational expert may be called in to assess the situation and make recommendations to the Court about imputed income and/or career potential. Vocational specialist Marcia Keene (Marcia is kindly filling in for Kathy Sampeck who has a family emergency) will be joining us to shed light on what her role is. She'll also cover what to expect if your spouse hires a vocational specialist -- or if you do.
Often, one spouse stays home or scales back his/her career to raise the family or accompany a spouse on military or overseas assignments. Or, a spouse may choose to become underemployed, especially if divorce is a possibility. If this becomes an issue in divorce, a vocational expert may be called in to assess the situation and make recommendations to the Court about imputed income and/or career potential. Trudy Koslow, a vocational specialist, will be joining us shed light on what her role is. She'll also had tips for attendees transitioning back into the workforce.
Attorney Patti Philispe will cover the legal aspects. She is also a mediator and a proponent of keeping expenses down by settling out of court.
Yes, it's Valentines Day, so we figure you deserve a treat. As a wife, and perhaps mom, we bet you've put other's first --sacrificing your needs and own "self-care". So, we've asked Heather Jenkins, who's also been through divorce herself, to share tips about looking good and ideas to for feeling better about you! It's our Valentine gift to you!
Yes... You deserve to treat yourself well during this challenging time..
What's it like for Kids?
Join us @ SecSat on Nov 9 (ladies month) for a Detective's Perspective
Our specialty guest in Nov is Mike Russell, the area's top private investigator. He'll fill you in on when and how to work with a PI as well as what a PI can/cannot do for you. For over 30 years, Mike's been getting the evidence to prove adultery, whether a parent is fit to care to care for the kids, and even tracking down hidden assets. Last time he spoke he got rave reviews!
As always, Sharon Zarozny will give an overview and Debbie Marson will cover the financial aspects. Mediator/attorney Patti Philispe the legal aspects with a slant towards a family-friendly divorce. More info
And in March we've invited one of our area's best private investigator, Mike Russell, to tell you what a PI can do, how to work with one, and answer your questions. If you've ever thought of hiring one (or think your spouse has) don't miss this month's program!
Perry Masson Goes Digital: Electronic Evidence in Divorce Cases. We get lots of questions about retrieving emails & texts, social media and digital forensics. So, we are excited to have Sharon Nelson, President of Sensei Enterprises, and John W. Simek, Sensei's Vice President, as guest speakers in May. Experts in digital forensics, information technology, and information security they'll share their insights and answer your questions. It's particularly timely as Sensei is in charge of revamping VA's child support software to reflect the first changes VA has made in child support in 20 years.
We get lots of questions about retrieving emails & texts, social media and digital forensics. So, we are excited to have Sharon Nelson, President of Sensei Enterprises, and John W. Simek, Sensei's Vice President, as guest speakers in May. Experts in digital forensics, information technology, and information security they'll share their insights and answer your questions.
Attorney Al Bonin will cover the legal aspects for us in May. He recently was cited in the Washington Post Magazine as one of our area's SuperLawyers and is often cited as one of our area's top divorce attorneys.
- National Domestic Violence Hotline 800.799.SAFE (7233)
- VA Family Violence & Sexual Assault Line 800.838.8238
- Fairfax Victim Assistance Network (VAN) 703.360.7273
- Artemis House (Fairfax County Shelter) 703.435.4940
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No kids? No problem. Our other speakers will be available to answer your questions ... or you can treat yourself to a short break!
We are also delighted to have therapist Deborah Ross join us to cover the emotional aspects of separation & divorce. Kelly Sweeney Hite, cited by Northern VA Magazine as one of our areas "best legal brains" will cover the legal aspects.
Each month we cover the basics with Debbie Marson discussing the financial aspects and Sharon Zarozny the smart steps. We rotate our other speakers to give you fresh insight and a reason to return!
Hope you'll join us @ our area's original SecSat!
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