Extra Difficult Situations: High Conflict, Personality Disorders,
Mental Illness and More...
All breakups are difficult, but ending a marriage with someone who has a personality disorder, mental illness, or controlling personality puts you in an extra challenging situation.
Good news is more and more resources and tools are becoming available as people begin to speak out about the challenges.
This is a section in progress...so if you have suggestions please email us. Thanks!
Brilliant Exits' e-BookStore
Under the heading Difficult People you'll find books we've selected for you to browse on Amazon. No need to buy... It's just easier, and more fun, than giving you a traditional bibliography...
Out of the Fog
This nonprofit was founded to provide information and support to family members and loved-ones of people who suffer from personality disorders. It's a site created by people who've been through it and are reaching out to help others.
You'll find disorder descriptions, statistics, a toolbox for family members & friends, forums and links to associations, books, and more. It's got an international reach with content in a wide variety of languages.
A non-profit, aimed at providing information and support for adult children of personality disordered (PD) parents, this site helps you understand characteristics of various PD's and how to deal with PDs. Topics covered include: About Personality Disorders, Things Toxic Parents Do, Reducing Contact, and more.
For a small fee ($7.00) you can take its "Toxicity Test" geared toward helping you determine what you're dealing with. The test supposedly takes 15 mins, with 81 targeted questions, based on all the known behaviors of toxic people, and you receive a report when done.
High Conflict Institute
Founded by Bill Eddy, an attorney and social worker who's written extensively about dealing with the high conflict personality, especially in family court, the site offers a wide variety of articles to help you understand how to deal with this personality. Of note is its Parenting and Divorce page with links to articles.
It's All About Him and It's All About Her
Above are two support forums (one for men and one for women) who are dealing with partners having Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Here you'll find resources for dealing with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. And, since a third of people with BPD also have Narcissistic Personality Disorder you'll also find resources on this topic. The materials for partners page has links to many articles.
Facing the Facts
This site is dedicated to providing families and loved ones with practical ways to deal with someone having Borderline Personality Disorder. There are a number of helpful articles on this site including:
-How a BPD Love Relationship Evolves
-Helping a Loved One with BPD Seek Treatment
-Surviving a Break-up with Someone Suffering BPD
-Leaving A Partner with BPD
About.com - Divorce Support
Clicking on this link will get you into an informative article about high conflict or malignant divorce as it's sometimes called. From there you can click around and explore a wide variety of balanced, informative and easy to understand articles on all aspects of separation and divorce. Cathy Meyer writes these articles and has had first hand experience with the subject.