Some resources to introduce you to mediation. More to come.
Northern Virginia Mediation Service
Wondering what mediation is, how to begin and steps to take? Visit this site, and click on the mediation button, to get a helpful overview. You can also call NVMS at 703.993.3656 for information and to be matched with a mediator.
Directory of Virginia Court Certified Mediators
Part of the Virginia Courts website, this online searchable directory allows you to search for mediators by name, qualifications, location, cost and specialty.
If you and your spouse are willing to compromise, and honestly share information, mediation may be a good option for you.
However if your partner is abusive, controlling or not trustworthy it is probably not a good idea. And, if you and you x2b can resolve all issues on your own, there is no need to mediate!
A mediator's job is to facilitate an agreement. S/he can not offer legal advice. You and your spouse can work out many things on your own, and then hire a mediator to help you resolve the issues you are stuck on. The mediator will then draw up an agreement that you and you 2bx can take to your individual attorney.
If you choose to mediate, it is important you and your 2bx each select an attorney who is "mediation friendly". If one of you chooses an agressive, litigious attorney your mediated agreement can get derailed.
Tip: It is a really good idea to have an initial meeting with an attorney and/or financial advisor prior to mediation so you have an idea of your rights before you start negotiations...